Those first dates can be stressful beyond belief for many people, but there are some methods of reducing that stress to a more healthy level. First of all take a few deep breaths. In all probability, your date is feeling a little stressed too, and perhaps this is something you can chuckle about when you meet.
Take a look at your expectations next. You have a choice as to how you view your first date. You could think that it as the only chance to get to know this person, and if you blow it then that’s it, for ever more. This places a huge amount of stress on your shoulders, and that is not a recommended approach. It may be true that this could be your only chance to get to know this date, but if it isn’t meant to be, it won’t be.
However you could choose to look at your first date together as the start of a new relationship where your date is the first opportunity to meet in person and get to know them a little more, and if it doesn’t work out, then you shouldn’t worry, there are plenty more dates out there that are waiting for you. By choosing to look at your first date this way, it may reduce your anxieties a little more, and have more realistic expectations for the first date. Presumably, what you are aiming for is a second date, provided you get on well together, and then a third, and so on. Don’t rush the process. It takes a long time to learn everything abut someone, to know how they would react in any given situation, and so on. No pressure is needed for your first date!
But, many people want perfect first date experiences, so not only is there anxiety because it is a first date, but they want perfection too. What a way to add pressure to the date! Naturally you would like your first date to go well, as in fact it may, be the only date, but some people organize very extravagant first dates to try to impress their date, and then get angry or upset when things fail to work out as planned.
Okay, then, here is some first date advice.
Consider this date carefully, taking into account the length of time for the date (shorter is definitely better), its location, and outfit needed, all things which it is in your power to control. If you are planning an outdoor event, it is advisable to have alternative arrangements in place for if the weather suddenly turns bad – girls who have spent hours on their makeup and hair will not appreciate if they get wet through, and they end up looking bedraggled on their first date with you!
Choose something which gives you and your date chance to talk in a comfortable setting – not a huge concert that would have you shouting to get yourself heard, despite sitting next to each other. Select something that will have you both relaxed. What this means is don’t make a reservation for dinner at a top class expensive restaurant when you know that you are very uncomfortable in this environment. Choose something that adds to your relaxed status, not diminishes it. A more relaxed environment should help you both get to know one another a little better, with fewer anxieties.
So, there are just a few words of advice for you for your first date, calm down and enjoy getting to know the new person in your life, and should unexpected things occur, just laugh them off. Do not show strong emotions of anger, or tears on your first date! – and good luck.





