Success With Relationships and Sex

Unfortunately, what you do with your hands can be one of the quickest non-verbal ways to destroy the attraction that a woman feels for you, because the wrong hand movements can communicate that you are a low-status, beta male.

To make matters worse, your hands can be particularly tough to manage because, let’s face it, when you feel nervous, the hardest thing in the world is figuring out what to do with your hands!

For success with your dating and seduction of women, make sure you don’t make the following body language mistakes with your hands.

MISTAKE ONE. Displaying your anxiety with your hands.

You do this when you:

1) Shred napkins.
2) Make your hands into fists.
3) Sit on your hands.
4) Hold something and play with it.
5) Twiddle your fingers or thumbs.
6) Hold your hands unnaturally still.
7) Sit on your hands to avoid having the woman see them tremble.

Although you might be feeling nervous, the last thing you want to do is to let the woman detect you feel that way.

Instead you want to convey that you’re calm and in control. Nothing attracts a woman more than a man who’s laid back and confident.

MISTAKE TWO. Putting your fingers into your mouth.

When you bite your nails or otherwise chew on your fingers, you are, according to psychologists, doing the same thing that infants are doing when they suck their mother’s breast.

For a baby, breast feeding provides comfort. When we became toddlers, our thumbs replaced our mom’s nipple.

And then as adults, biting our thumbnail does the same thing. Ever noticed that when you’re out in public, you mainly bite your nails when you’re under pressure?

THE SOLUTION. Just hold your hands relaxed on the table.

Rest your forearms on the table, keeping your arms open and letting them drop forward.

Keep your hands and arms open and relaxed. Most of the time this means having them about 18 inches or half a meter apart, your palms facing each other, with fingers curved slightly upward.

As your palms face each other, they should also face the woman. Open palms convey honesty and being completely comfortable with yourself. Having the back of your hands facing her can often convey that you’re hiding something.

Demonstrating your confidence can be as easy as that! Stop twiddling your thumbs and watch the women flock to you.

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Okay men, listen up, this is a lady speaking. I have some advice for you that my sisterhood may be a bit upset for me spilling to you. If you really want to know how to pick up girls this weekend, just read on.

Prepare Yourself
The first tip in your quest to pick up the perfect hotty is to present yourself as being pickupable. This means you need to put more effort into getting ready to go out than rummaging through the dirty clothes for a t-shirt that does not smell too bad. Ok, the way to start is from the top down.

Hair: getting it cut regularly is a must. Heck, you should even splurge and go to a real salon instead of just the local Walmart cut and trim joint. You need to show off your cool style by investing in some appropriate styling products. Do not be afraid of hair products. Just tell yourself this, “Brad Pitt wears them and he has Angelina Jolie.”

Face: If clean cut is not the thing for you, get over it. Clean cut is almost always the way to go. Just because you have been slaving over your tiny precious “soul patch” since high school, does not mean it is attractive to the ladies. Do it, shave it off.

Smell: Good golly Miss Molly, take a shower. If you stink, this is not France, and you will NOT get the girl. Ok, do you remember all of those stupid TV commercials showing the new men’s body spray. They have the right idea. It is a fact: women are attracted to men who smell good. You might want to invest in something a little classier than Bod though. ALSO IMPORTANT, do not overdo it. Spray several sprays in the air and walk through the mist. This is enough to carry you through the night smelling good.

Clothes: You know the gay guys you make fun of? Look at how they are dressed. Unless they are wearing pink or stillettos, they are probably wearing the latest fashion and should be admired and copied. Woman love a man who has style.

Shoes: No scrubby old sneakers for the club please. No ugly thong sandals depicting your disgusting man feet. Cover those bad boys up in something fashionable and stylish. Again, check out your nearest gay for a hint.

BE BOLD
The second tip in picking up ladies is to leave the cheesy pick up lines at home, but make sure to pack your self confidence. If you thing perfume is attractive, sorry, self confidence is. DO NOT be afraid of us and we will very rarely bite (in a mean way). If you are asking a woman if you wants to dance or if you may buy her a drink and she says: No… do not despair. Trust me, there are many girls who will take you up on the offer.

PAY OUR WAY
Sure, it is a new age of femininism and we CAN pay our own way, but a bought drink still tells us you’re interested, and we should never have to go stag on a date. Do not buy her a rolex on the first meeting, but do not be afraid to buy a drink or three. Heck, that may loosen us up enough to think your pick up lines are cute.

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While you search the internet for that special lady…the one of your dreams…your soul-mate…the other half of yourself, you can do a lot of things right.  Sadly, you can, also, do a lot of things wrong….things that will guarantee failure and a broken heart.   Out in the “real” world, being aggressive, demanding perfection and even little white lies are all ingredients for success.  However, those same qualities are killers when you are dating online and off line, too, for that matter. 

There is a big difference between being aggressive or confident and being too aggressive, over-confident, or just plain sleazy or slimy from a woman’s point of view. If you push too hard for a face-to-face, you will come across as too aggressive…maybe even, scary.  Try to remember that you are not trying to close a business deal and keep the relationship progressing at a slow but steady pace.  Patience is the key. 

Nobody is perfect.  We are all flawed in some way or another…and that includes you, as well.  If you expect the woman to be absolutely perfect and demand that, you will always be disappointed.  Demanding perfectionism in your work is one thing.  Demanding perfectionism from a friend, co-worker or a lady you are interested in is not just fine.  It won’t happen.  Expect flaws and just deal with them.  Decide the ones you can live with and those you can’t. 

Little white lies and false fronts won’t work.  Be honest from the beginning of a relationship.  Write your profile.  Make it interesting but don’t make false statements.  The truth will come out eventually anyway.  If you say you are a lawyer who makes a million bucks a year and you are really an electrician that makes $75,000, you have set yourself up for failure. 

Remember…don’t be too aggressive, expect to ever find perfection or put on a false front. 

Almost everything you read about online dating safety is directed at women but men need to be concerned as well.  Perverts, sexual predators and weirdoes come in both sexes, all sizes, and all ages…as do, liars and cheaters.  So men need to stay on guard, too. 

It is common knowledge not to readily give out personal information to strangers.  The reason for not doing so is as large as the number of strangers who want that information.  If you come across a person who is giving out personal information and asking others to do the same, don’t do it.  You don’t know what they want to use it for….and you had better believe they want to use it for something.  That “something” will not be for your benefit.  Men, also, need to guard their real names, addresses, phone numbers, and place of employment.  Do not give that information to anyone online until you are confident that they are who they say they are.

Men, be wary of women who seem too financially needy.  If they ask for money, in any of a dozen ways women can ask for money, cut the relationship off immediately.  They are not looking for love or even friendship….they are looking for financial help. 

If a woman gives you a contact number but you cannot ever reach her at that number, beware.  If you always have to page them or text them and have them call you back, this could be a sign that what they are telling you is not the complete truth. 

A need to get married and insecurity are other signs men should be very wary of.  If the woman is pushing too hard for a commitment you aren’t ready to make, it might be a good time to head for the nearest exit.

Many of the same things work for online flirting that work for “brick and mortar” flirting and all relationships begin with successful flirting.  Flirting is an art that requires oozing confidence without being OTT.  If you go too far, she will label you “slimy” If you don’t go far enough, she will label you “wimpy”.  So how do you achieve that point half way between slimy and wimpy and do it online without using eye contact or body language?  All you have is a computer an internet connection and membership in an online dating site, right? 

1.     Have fun!  Be light-hearted, funny and entertaining.  Make her eager to talk to you again.  Flirting is playful. 

2.     Ooze confidence.  Successful flirts have a positive outlook on life.  You need to transmit the “feel good” factor.  An optimistic attitude attracts females like honey attracts flies. 

3.     3.  Compliment her…and do it often and sincerely.  Nothing opens doors like making her feel good about herself.  She will want to spend more time with you and if she pays you a compliment say “thank you”.  Do Not be self depreciating. 

4.     Listen…listen….listen.  Pay attention to what she says and ask appropriate questions.  Get her to open up and talk about herself.  Make her feel like she is interesting and that you are interested in her.  Works wonders!

5.     Don’t be rude.  Flirting does not include being sexually explicit nor taking offence if the lady isn’t responding to you. If she isn’t interested, take the hint and move on to the next prospect.  If you get a lot of rejections, you should probably consider a different approach. 

6.     Send an email after you chat.  This ranks right up there with sending a thank you note for a gift and it is vital to successful flirting. 

Don’t try to go too fast.  Flirting is the first step to a successful relationship. 

Online dating is not a competition between competing males for the attention of a female.  Grow up.  Change your mind set from “winning” to “searching”.  This isn’t high school.  You are all grown up and have been for quite some time, now.  Your attitude is the most important asset you have.  You should like yourself and not concentrate of all of the things that aren’t YOUR idea of the perfect guy…the one the all women want. 

What is that women want, you ask?  That’s the age old question.  Being of the female persuasion myself, I can tell you a few things women want and don’t want. 

Women want a man to be confident…NOT an arrogant jerk.  There’s a big difference.  You need to like yourself and not be self depreciating but you don’t need to come across like you believe that you are a gift to them from God and have just fallen from the sky.  They don’t want you to think that THEY just fell from heaven and are some kind of perfect being, either.  They can’t live up to that expectation.

Women want a communicator. The “strong silent type” really isn’t appealing at all.   They think you probably don’t have an original thought in your head and you probably haven’t heard a word they said, either or that you just don’t care what they said or didn’t even hear what they said.  They want you to be interesting enough to want to know more about you and they want you to think that they are interesting enough to ask intelligent questions about what is important to them, too.

Women do NOT want to be a prize to be won.  They don’t want to be a trophy. They want to be the ONE woman that you want to be with.

No matter what your age, height, weight or physical appearance, there are thousands of women out there eager to meet you and eager for your company…whether short-term or long-term relationships are what you want.  If you have found yourself suddenly “on-the-market” again after a relationship has dissolved or are just too busy with your work to spend a lot of time looking for a lady to keep you company, online dating can open the door to the dating scene for you. 

The good news is that all you need is a computer and an internet connection to get started.  The first thing to do is find an online dating site that fits your needs.  There are the large sites that offer many extras like live video chat and even match you up with ladies using your profiles and, also, a lot of sites that cater to special interests like religious preferences, outdoor enthusiasts, gays, etc. You need to choose one or two that will meet your needs.  I don’t recommend the free sites.  The paid sites have a money back guarantee if you aren’t satisfied and the investment is small.  A whole month costs less than one dinner and movie date. 

The next thing you need to do is write a killer, but honest, profile and upload a recent but flattering picture of yourself.   Now you are all set.  Start contacting ladies whose profiles sound interesting to you and answer any lady who contacts you…and do so promptly…not, however, on holidays or weekends.  You don’t want to appear that desperate.  Don’t give up after a month and think you will never find the right lady for you.  New people join online dating services daily and at least half of them are ladies many, of whom, will want to meet you. 

I ask myself sometimes, how to attract women? The good thing to know is that there are no hard and fast rules that dictate whether or not you can or cannot attract women. Note, that ain’t good. Since I can only give you guidelines I can’t give you the exact script on what to say to guarantee your success.

What I can provide you with is a list of common elements that women in general find attract. If you really want to learn how to attract women for good, then you need to have these elements as part of your personality.

Attracting women does not require good looks, money or any of the other “must haves” that movies say you need. Looks and money is a plus, but not a necessity.

So the things you need to know in order learn how to attract women are:

• You let her realize that you are not interested in being a normal friend - What’s the primary factor for this? If you’re just a friend, then you are just that. I cannot help you with the answer to why. It just so happens in that way.
• You are a man - Women like men! I don’t understand why do men try to act like women? I have a sneaking suspicion that it has something to do with how the media seems to force feed young men into believing that they need to act like new age metro males. But you know. Females have been attracted to males who behaved like males for well… before bad dating advice was given. Perhaps if you were not acting like a woman, and was more of a man, then you would get girls.
• You come across as a high status male - Mentioned earlier, women have always been attracted to men who act like men. Sometimes I wonder what causes this? Because these men display a higher status. You don’t even need cars, looks or money for her to know this. Showing her personality traits that let her know you are a high status male is all that you need to do.
• You are a challenge - Put simply, people like things they can’t have. There is nothing that rings more truth to this, especially since if she cannot have you! You want to know why whores are not respected? The reason is because they are easy. There’s no difference to attracting females. You have got to be hard to get!
• You are not a wuss - That means, you say no to girls and their demands! You do things if only she meets your demands. Eg. I ask her in a playful way, what do I get for helping her out? Sometimes, do you ask yourself how come you want to do these things? The reason for this is because you don’t need her favor. But you want to let her know that you are a high status male. They have to earn it!

That was just a quick list of things you might want to know if you want to learn about attraction. For a full list of details check out my article titled: How To Attract A Woman

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