We live in a society with an alarming divorce rate. Statistics show that over 50% of recently married couples will end up in divorce. With such grave figures it is easy to think that in the contemporary society it is no longer possible to have lasting and successful unions. However with the right understanding, marriage can be beautiful and it can work.
The first and most important thing in making a marriage work is learning to communicate. Communication is a skill that ought to be developed early in the relationship. It will help you learn who your partner is, the things that they cannot stand, what makes them happy and basically how to live peacefully with them on a day to day basis. While there are many problems that are usually listed as the causes for divorce, many of them can be traced to a general lack of communication. If each spouse learned to communicate their needs and expectations and learned to listen to the other spouse when they were communicating the same as well, very many marital problems could be worked through easily.
Another tip that cannot be over-emphasized in understanding, marriage is learning to overcome selfishness. Marriage is a merging of two lives, it is important that you understand that if you do decide to get married then you will need to always consider your spouse in every decision you take. Before getting married it is essential that you are able to come to come to peace with the fact that your life will no longer be your own and you will never again have the same kind of independence that you had when you were single.
There are many challenges that you are going to face as a couple, but with a proper understanding, marriage can be successful.