Somebody once said it…something like…if your value's decided by everyones compliments, then you will be annihilated by their feedback.
I didn’t really understand this quote right until recently. But now, I really get it.
I suspect this is the very first time in a long time that I've been told about someone saying bad things about me behind my back. For a second, it rocked me. For the minutes to hours after, it fueled me. I put those comments in a special place inside of me that I will go to each and every day when I need them. The truth is, inspiration is many things for many different people. Ideally you would want to set an exceedingly positive goal for yourself and work towards achieving that goal. However , the fuel we must employ might not always be clean.
Often, it might sometimes burn black.
I always talk of the balance of life…light and dark…especially within the soul, and I think that we will be able to find things within ourselves that will fuel our actions whether or not the fuel itself isn’t pure. I am of course talking about the times somebody said something harmful, hateful, rude or simply brutal in all. For some, those things can completely ruin their ambitions. To be honest, that really did happen many times with me. I didn’t have the belief in myself yet to “do it” regardless of what any person declared.
These things that people say, at the end, are not even truly about you. I know cause I have actually been on the other side. I can recollect a time when I couldn’t say good things because I hated myself. I detested that they were doing it and I couldn’t. I loathed everything about that person because they could make the sacrifices…they had the willpower…they were actually…doing what I had always dreamed about daily.
You can spend your life blaming other people and trying to bring people down because you've got a crappy life or you can focus on really loving yourself and others, something you absolutely and truly need to be a positive person and encourage others and their dreams. In the final analysis, spewing hate only tears you apart. Karma really does come around in some way and looks after proper business. Been there as well.
You are either for people or against them.
Be for others. Be for their dreams…that makes you a warm person within. Be for relationships. That cold heart you are harboring is only going to freeze harder and at last split up into tons of pieces. Hate, envy, and envy will cut you in half and you'll spend many years battling between the loving side and the terrible side. Once again, been there. Regardless of what you do, people are going to not like you for whatever reason. They are going to be rubbed the wrong way, they will really not like your hair, your eyes, your nose, your scent, your image…they will find anything. Don’t sweat it. Your true self is on course. Because nobody has ever talked trash about someone who didn't mean something to them in one way or another.
Remember that. Not everybody is going to love peaches.
So you must truly really matter to them. So much, in fact, they have been taking time out of their day to speak about you. What a distinction.
So cheers…haters…I tip my cap to you. I must be headed in the correct direction.
Evan Sanders is the author of The Words Of Encouragement, a website dedicated to bringing the best quotes, motivational content on the web, and blogs all to one place. Need to move on? A lover talking behind your back? Try out these ex boyfriend quotes.